A Month into Marriage

It’s been a month since I got married. Gone for my first honeymoon (hoping for a second 😀  ) and settling at a new home. “How is married life?” is one of the questions I get lately. It is going well and I’m happy. I live with my parents-in-law and they are very nice and kind to me. And that, I feel very thankful! Today marks their 41th year together. 🙂

Been spending time with them and getting to know them better since I’m still not working and looking for a job now. It’s nice to have 2 mothers and 2 fathers now. My parents and my parents-in-law.

I appreciate the time that I have now to be with people who love and care for me. With MH370, MH17 and QZ8501 happening within one year, it serves as a reminder how fragile and unpredictable life can be. I’m allowing myself to enjoy the smallest of things, like sipping a cup of my favourite milk tea, hugging my soft toy duck even though I’m turning 33 next year and not the 3-year old I used to be, acting crazy with my hubby when it’s just the two of us.

I’m thankful for the ups and downs of 2014. The downs allow me to get up. I appreciate the ups more now because of the downs.

I wish all of you a happy 2015.

Pre Wedding

The only thing and the many things filling my head is my upcoming wedding so much so that I’ve not been sleeping very well. Like now I’m awake when I should be sleeping because my head is full of table layout, table arrangement, things to bring, what else I miss, songs, slideshows and just reminding myself to get enough rest.

I’m not stressed, I’m excited. The old me would be panicky by now but despite the little sleeplessness I’m experiencing now, I think I’m still good. I trust that I will prepare and do my best and just enjoy on my big day.

知足就好

Saw this at a coffee shop today.

钱多钱少,够吃就好。人丑人美,顺眼就好。
人老人少,健康就好。 家穷家富,和气就好。
老公晚归,回来就好。老婆唠叨,顾家就好。
孩子从小,就要教好。 博士也好,卖菜也好。
长大以后,乖乖就好。 房屋大小,能住就好。
名不名牌,能穿就好。四轮二轮,能驾就好。
老板不好,能忍就好。 一切烦恼,能忍就好。
坚持执着,放下就好。 人的一生,平安就好。
不是有钱,一定会好。心好行好,命能改好。
谁是谁非,天知就好。 修富修慧,来世更好。
天地万物,随缘就好。很多事情,看开就好。
人人都好,日日都好。你好我好,世界更好。
总而言之,知足就好。说这么多,明白就好。

JUST SO YOU KNOW…I’M MARRIED!

Love was in the air.

I was smiling.

Loved my cheongsam, the makeup and the hairdo.

Thankful for the attendance of family and friends.

My father was my witness.

Can’t believe it just takes one signature from me to be legally married.

Lots of photo taking.

Food tasting for the wedding banquet during dinner.

Lots of laughter.

Today is a great day! 🙂

A New Life For Grace

I was de-cluttering the house as part of my career break project and I found this piece of paper among the pile of unwanted paper that I was about to give away for recycling. It was titled as the above and it read…

The past will always remain as the past whether you like it or not. Some things can be undone while some are better left alone. Some people are worth waiting but some are meant to be left alone. Giving out all you have may not be as fruitful as getting all you want in return. Life’s like that and you gotta get used to it. It sucks when someone doesn’t give a damn about how you feel or what you do. You just gotta accept it for life’s not a bed of roses and even roses have thorns.

It hurts and dampens the heart so much when you feel so empty when you have done so much to gain something. No matter how hurting it is, it is even better than saying words and doing things which are stupid and not meant to be…just because of the non-lasting anger. It”ll only get you feeling remorse…so scarred in the heart that will continue to haunt you as time goes by. Hearts may be broken but not the spirit within. When you feel that life is just a stupid game…well,.it is if you think it is. Holding on to something too desperately will only let it fly away yet holding on to something too loosely will only let it slip away.

People become sad because they expect too much. Expecting too much is not totally wrong but once you know you’re expecting too much, just let it go a bit.

On well, always remember that it’s through pain that you gain. Winter is always followed by spring. So often we hear about all these beautiful quotes but never really understand the real meaning behind it.

A sad moment in life is just like a river bend where you row harder. Great life with great achievements is only there when there’s great risk and great love.

Life is short so make it sweet and as Papa said, “Life is too short for us to suffer”.

Love, 
Dear Ducky on a lonesome night
 

I read and laughed. I let my mum read it too and I was laughing at some parts when she read this piece out loud. She commented on how someone who could write this fall into depression.

Anyway, this note was written when I was in my earlier 20s on a lonesome night with a very broken heart (after a bad breakup but I forgot which guy I was with) but with a determined heart to bounce back.